

Then, when you feel cool, relaxed, and ready to start exploring anal play, you or your partner can use a finger or sex toy to massage the outside of your anus. You can start by asking your partner to give you a massage or do something else you know will loosen you up. Other than that, you can concentrate on external anal hygiene. If your butt starts feeling irritated when you do an enema, that’s a sign you should quit. He recommends only doing them once every few months and following the instructions every time. But there’s usually no harm in doing an enema as long as you’re not doing it often enough to irritate your rectum, Dr. As we just established, the chances of you pooping on your partner mid-act are slim to none. Fleet enemas ($8, Amazon) are a popular option (and incidentally, a big reason why so many people were laughing about Twitter’s new Fleet feature).Īgain, you don’t necessarily need an enema. Since it’s pretty convenient to just grab an enema kit at your local drugstore or online, some people suggest doing this before anal to avoid any feces’ making an appearance in the bedroom. But some people prefer to take the extra step of doing an enema, and that’s cool too.Īn enema involves pumping water or saline into the rectum to dissolve any stool that’s hanging out in there, making it easier to poop out. Speaking of…ĭon’t get us wrong: Getting your bum ready for anal sex can be as simple as cleaning the area with water and a gentle washcloth so it’s as pristine as possible before you dive in. Worth noting: Even if you and your partner aren’t worried about STIs or planning to switch between anal and vaginal penetration, using a condom may make you feel more comfortable if mess is a concern. Long story short? If you insert anything into your anus, clean it off and/or roll on a new condom before putting it into your vagina. According to the Mayo Clinic, this can cause symptoms like constantly needing to pee, then a burning sensation when you do, along with cloudy urine and pelvic pain. It can also spread to your urethra, where it can cause a urinary tract infection (UTI). When this bacteria reaches your vagina, it can cause vaginal infections, like bacterial vaginosis, which can lead to vaginal itching, burning during urination, a “fishy” vaginal odor, and gray, white, or green vaginal discharge, according to the Mayo Clinic. Your anus is home to all kinds of bacteria your vagina and related parts aren’t used to-namely, gastrointestinal (GI) bacteria, like E. Otherwise, you risk moving bacteria from your anus to your vagina or urethra. Shibari Personal Lubricant, $8, Įven if you are in a fluid-bonded relationship, using condoms is especially important if you’re switching from anal to vaginal penetration.JO H2O Anal Water Based Personal Natural Lubricant, $19,.

Water-based lube is perfectly serviceable too-you might just find yourself having to reapply more often. With all that in mind, if you’re engaging in anal play, using condoms, or using silicone toys, you’ll typically want to stick with water-based lube. But don’t worry-if you want to use silicone-based lube and toys, there are other toy materials out there that work just fine, such as glass or metal. If you’re bringing silicone anal toys into the mix, you’ll want to avoid silicone-based lubes, since this kind of lube erodes silicone toys. But oil-based lubes (like coconut oil) can break down condoms and render them less effective, so if you’re using a condom, steer clear of that kind of lube. Oil- and silicone-based lubes are thicker and longer lasting, making them great for anal play. When it comes to lube, you pretty much have three options: oil-based, silicone-based, and water-based. That’s because these tears create openings in the skin, potentially allowing infection-causing pathogens to enter. Not only is that painful, it also makes you more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections, like gonorrhea and HIV, board-certified ob-gyn Jacques Moritz, M.D., tells SELF.
